- The star-parents, Will and Jada Smiths had shared with some pieces of advice with every parent
- We took a look at them
It is hard to be a parent, but maybe it is doubly hard to be a star and parent.
So, the advice from the successful star-parents is really valuable.
Firstly, Will Smith had told that he wanted his kids to be as opened as they wanted, even bad things.
'They're allowed to tell us everything that they did [in the circle of safety], and they can't get in trouble. The rule is, if we find out after the circle of safety that there was something you didn't say, there was hell to pay.'
But the problem, that as the kids are growing up, he can't listen to everything they tell him, and especially it comes to his daughter, Willow.
Because, as Will said, there are things, she has to discuss with her mother.
Will Smith also said that they give their children the freedom as much as possible, and not punish kids.
'We don't do punishment. The way that we deal with our kids is, they are responsible for their lives. Our concept is, as young as possible, give them as much control over their lives as possible and the concept of punishment, our experience has been—it has a little too much of a negative quality.'
But there is one important thing in it, they have to explain why the thing they had done is right for their life.
The next important thing is not to draw out the information until your kid decides to share with it.
Then you should let your daughter have the full control of her body, that point was defended earlier when Willow shaved off most of her hair in 2012.
But it also works with small kids,
'When you have a little girl, it's like how can you teach her that you're in control of her body? She can't cut my hair but that's her hair. She has got to have command of her body.
The next point is in respect.
You should treat your kids as equals, as they are any others grown-ups, and not your property.
Will said that you don't tell them to clean their rooms, you project the idea that you've let them borrow it, so you are asking them like adults, who had used your stuff, to clean it.
So, it looks more like partnership, not dictatorship.
In the last but one point, they had advised to let children to say what they want and represent their own ideas before you express yours.
And the last one, you should not try to fix mistakes of your life, with theirs'.
'I want my kids to be happy and I want them to be themselves. I was saying to a friend the other day, 'Remember, our kids are not us.' They're not. Sometimes we're trying to fix things that happened to us or projecting [onto them], and that's a terrible, terrible trap.'