Parenting is a difficult job and people spend years trying to find the right partner with whom they could start a family.
One has to note that not all presently beautiful relationships would produce individuals who turn out to be good parents. Good parents may even be persons who have very awful relationships.
Since you are taking the decision to have the child with someone whom you will have to know for the rest of your life, you might want to take all the time that your biological clock can allow.
Fortunately, certain qualities and values in some people give us an idea as to what sort of grown ups they will be.
YEN.com.gh lists things to note when deciding to have and raise a child with someone.
1. The balance between self-love and selflessness
This is perhaps the biggest balance any human at all needs. How do you love yourself enough not to seem selfish?
Many people will never find the right balance but that is what you have to look out for in a parenting partner. They should know how much of themselves they are holding on to and what to give.
2. The ability to give people a chance
The reason it is important to have a man or woman who can give others opportunities to shine is because they can share honours without feeling jealous.
You need for your children to be given the space and time to grow into their full potential. A parent who cannot do that may not have brilliant kids.
Discipline is necessary in a prospective parent because they cannot give what they do not have. Discipline is taught but the teacher must be a talking and living example of what they teach.
The children need to know why they are taught to maintain self-control and determination. A disciplined grown-up can teach this.
4. People who can laugh at themselves
There is a danger in taking one's self too seriously. One tends to think that they are infallible and above condemnation and correction.
You do not want to raise your child with a man or a woman who cannot accept that they are wrong. People who cannot accept that once in a while, they will be the joke, cannot teach anything.
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5. Responsible people
The last quality you need to look out for is a good sense of responsibility. People who can take care of their task without being told or forced to do so.
The duty to have children with responsible people is important if you realise that even in separation, you would have to call on them to help with their kids.
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