- Robert and Lucy got married when they were 21 and 20 years of age respectively
- Though their marriage was not easy in the beginning, they inspired online users after narrating how they overcame challenges in the union
- With more than 11 years together, the Kenyan couple who live in Rwanda, are great business owners and their love is even stronger
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We often hear the wise saying that marriage is not a bed of roses and going by the rising divorce numbers in Kenya, this statement could not be any truer.
By the end of 2019, Milimani Law Courts’ civil registry which registers divorces recorded 1,109 separations and in January and February 2020 alone, 244 divorces had already been filed.
But for Robert and Lucy, they chose to stick to each other even in moments when divorce seemed like it was the easy way out and their love story left many inspired that indeed, marriage works.
How they met
Speaking to philanthropist Ndungu Nyoro in his popular segment dubbed #inspirationThursday, Robert admitted he grew up a shy boy and was even convinced, at some point in his life that he was never meant for a relationship and love.
"I also had this deep feeling it had to do with my physical appearance, as I was really thin and broke as well. Honestly, it was tough to get a girlfriend," he narrated.
His love for Lucy was not hard to come by given they grew up in the same hood in Kayole but lost contact when his now wife's family relocated to another area.
The universe was definitely conspiring for them to be together because they both bumped into each other in 2007 in a matatu and exchanged contacts to keep in touch.
By this time, the young Robert was not stable financially to afford expensive dates but would invite the young lady to his place for lunch and dinner.
He had also started getting attracted to his beautiful childhood friend who was a small business owner in Ngara by then.
Robert gathered courage and asked Lucy to be his girlfriend and he was instead slapped with a huge no by the lady who wanted to concentrate on building herself first.
"I asked her for the second time and she said 'no' and that it couldn’t happen. My spirit was dampened and I felt like there was something so wrong with me," he said.
Undeterred, Robert tried the third time to ask Lucy to be his hand and your guess is as good as mine, he was met with another rejection.
They both started a studio business together and it was during their interactions in the shop that the relentless young man popped the question again and fortunately, the lady accepted to be his girlfriend.
Marriage and challenges
Not long after that, that the smitten couple, aged 20, for Lucy and Robert 21, tied the knot in a traditional wedding in 2009.
They said though their parents were concerned about their young ages, they still supported them.
Their first hurdle in marriage was finances since their studio was not earning them much and secondly, Lucy had a troublesome first pregnancy.
After the birth of their child, Robert felt forsaken since Lucy's attention shifted to the baby only and gradually, they started falling apart and they would even go for days without talking to each other.
One time, when they had an argument, they almost completely gave up on the union but lucky for them, a neighbour intervened and they talked and decided to forgive each other.
Now, 11 years together and parents to two adorable boys, the couple are business owners of a consultancy firm in Kigali, Rwanda and other businesses and the best part is that their love has never been so alive as it is.
For them, they do not regret marrying young and they said communication and openness have been some of the values that have kept their love strong for more than a decade.
"We don’t keep secrets, we prefer being open to each other. When it comes to finances and running the business, she does the budgets and planning," he said.