“Berma nsu”; Understanding why most Ghanaian men never cry

“Berma nsu”; Understanding why most Ghanaian men never cry

In 1989, 7-year-old Nii Moi lost his father to a gory car accident on the Accra-Kumasi highway. His dad was all he had as he lost his mother at childbirth

“I remember playing football with my friends when I saw my aunt wailing in the kitchen. I approached and she told me dad is not coming home again. I knew, there and then, he was gone. I wept uncontrollably, with my arms crossed over my shoulders.

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As I sobbed, I heard heavy footsteps approaching – it was my uncle. He spanked me, telling me to wipe my tears. “Men don’t cry,” he yelled. It’s been decades and now as an adult, no sad thing breaks me up into tears, he revealed.

“Berma nsu”; Understanding why most Ghanaian men never cry
“Berma nsu”; Understanding why most Ghanaian men never cry
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It is a Ghanaian culture not to see a man cry. In fact, the Patriarchal social system of traditional societies makes this more ingrained in all sub cultures of Ghana and the rest of Africa.

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These are the reasons why most men we date in various African cultures rarely show emotions. They box up their emotions and rarely talk.

You can’t blame them the most especially when – just like Nii Moi – they had their emotions tortured and boxed by the very uncles, brothers and fathers who scorned them for showing too much emotions in their childhood.

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