Whenever it comes to the reason(s) why our fellow men cheat in relationships, several religious, traditional and even theoretical reasons get raised, no matter how true or real these reasons are, they often lead stressful and frustrated wives and women wondering whether or not they are not good enough for their man. Well, this article bases its five fundamental reasons to why men cheat on historical relationship experiments conducted buy relationship counselor, Dr Kamal Khurana. Digging through past research on male infidelity, we bring you some of the findings of Dr Khurana on why men cheat.
1. Cheating men have wives who cheat
Men also take revenge with their cheating wives, by having multiple relationships themselves. Even if their wives are guilty and come accept their extra-marital relationships, some men continue with their tricks. This is mostly done by men who don't want to forgive their spouses.
2. The reason why men cheat is due to the problems they face in their marriage
When there are regular fights at home with his wife, which are left unresolved, a pattern sets in wherein he continues to be unhappy and 'disturbed'. Looking for an affair means he is looking to flee from dealing with the issues in the marriage, thus been comfortable with that 'other person'.
3. Cheating men say it's due to the boredom in their marriage.
Cheating men find the routine of a married life tedious and dull. Thus it becomes the present moment for gratification versus the hard job they will have to do in their marriage to resolve an issue. The extra-marital relationship provides them with a ready-made and fresh experience, which is appealing enough to take the risk.
4. Cheating men love to experiment sexually
Sex has always been and will always be an integral part of a marriage. While some men are quite content spending the rest of their lives having sex with the same wife for many years, others prefer to experiment more as a need, rather than as an option. They want to sleep with many women, many times, and therefore do not think twice before an extra-marital alliance. It perhaps makes them feel sexually powerful and more adept than others.
5. Cheating men are emotionally dissatisfied
When their wives are too busy with their own lives, working or bringing up children or even looking after in-laws and parents, emotionally, men are left high and dry. But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right. Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked. Sometimes the couple may not be compatible so however much the wife may do, the man will always find something to complain about.
It may also happen that the woman he cheats with is his co-worker or boss, someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts. That's another reason why it's so critical that he feel valued at home.
Source - The Times Of India