When it comes to our first love, many of us find it highly difficult letting go even if we may have suffered severe heartbreaks or emotional instabilities. One thing about the power of memory towards our former lovers is that they never go away - an experience which often time sees us going back time and time again especially at the expense of our current partners.
But there is a way out, a way to bid farewell to our first love. These steps should suffice.
1. Banish every memory
Are you fond of keeping those photographs and messages that just reminds you of the one you broke-up with? Could it be the stash of clothes they left behind in your closet during the times you both were having the best times of your life? Well remember this, keeping remnants of your past lovers have the highest potential of getting you back into their arms even at the cost of your current lover or married partner. Burn them if you can or better still, dispose them off!
2. Get yourself active
After a terrible heartbreak, you may never have to stay indoors for long because it usually has the mental effect of bringing back memories. Don't forget that you once lived without him/her so it won't definitely ruin your life now that you are back to where you once were... your life isn't over now that they're gone.
3. Decide to make new and fresher memories
To get your ex out of your mind, you may have to form new memories. This could mean never visiting places you both visited before or eating foods that clearly reminds you of them. Eat foods you’ve never tasted before. Try a different sport. Do something you never thought you’d do like rock climbing, paragliding or anything else! If you create new memories, you will have a better chance at forgetting your ex, and in the process, you'll discover many more things that you are capable of, things you never thought you could do.
4. Avoid making contacts
In this situation you can change your phone number or better still blacklist theirs. Delete their number from your contact list. If you memorized the number, you will really have to discipline yourself and do your best not to contact him.Try to memorize other important phone numbers. Keep busy so you won't even have time to think of contacting him. In time, you'll be surprised that you don't remember his phone number anymore.
5. Fall in love again
Falling in love again is the surest way to forgetting about that former lover of yours. In fact, researchers have stated that the power of finding love again is one that is often used in the treatment of persons with severe heartbreaks and disappointments. If you are less lucky to have that special person you should remember there are thousand and one ways to fall in love. By doing what do love doing best, having that lovely pet or embarking on that memorable road trip.