Love remains one of the most complicated ventures one can ever engage in - mostly when you happen to just have found your lover at the moment of either a terrible or understandable breakup with your ex.
But be it all as it may, the most deadly mistake one could ever make is revealing some very 'shocking' memories about your ex-lover to your current partner. Find out the main things you should keep your mouth shut on.
1. The sexual incompatibility of you and your ex
Yes it is true that sharing the memory of how incompatible your ex was is one of the conversations you are most likely to engage in with your partner. But truth be told, such a move has the highest potential of your current partner getting to know the darkest sins of your sexual past. In some instances they may overlook the facts of the conversation but in other instances, hey! they may come up against you just when you thought they may have forgotten
2. The lovely and memorable moments shared with your ex.
Sexual psychologists have revealed that a relationship is bound to face a major shut down when one party blurts out the fantasies of his or her past relationships. You may never know this but most partners have been documented to have the opposite understanding and feeling of their partners whenever it comes to matters relating to your ex. You may think you are just letting out the pressure of the past, they may take the entire matter as you indirectly expressing your thirst to go back into their arms. You may never want to risk that.
3. Faults of your ex
As humans, we are bound to engage in a protective mode - shielding our frailties and shortcomings. Telling your partner about how your ex could not keep up with personal hygiene, money management or even house-keeping would indirectly shield your partner from showing you his or her real character - they would always want to act nice until the very day when their habit shoots up and you start to feel shortchanged and disappointed.
4. Regrets of leaving your Ex
One of the most serious revelations one could ever make to his or partner are the regrets you express having to leave your ex. In fact, most potential marriages have ended up into divorces all because a partner may have revealed howmuch he or she loved their ex. Please, you may not want to thread that path as it only brings insecurity and loss of self-image to your partner.
5. The "You're just like my ex'' reference
It's nasty and belittling, and it gets at his fear that he may be exhibiting the worst traits of the very person you once broke up with. If you're about to spout a criticism like this, stop and think about what's behind it: Maybe your ex was the kind of person who never cleaned up after him or herself, and your partner's habit of leaving dirty dishes around the house is getting to you. Well, relationship experts suggest that you should skip the insult and get right to a reasonable request, such as: "Hon, when you're done with your sandwich, can you bring your dish over to the sink?" That way, you can achieve your goals without hurting him or her in the process.