Many things can happen during sex. You may get an orgasm, fall in love and even create the new life! But there are also other, less pleasant things, that often happen during sexual intercourse. And they can happen not only with your partner but also with you.
You might have probably seen in some common melodrama or erotic movie that when people make love, everything is very romantic, beautiful, exciting, no put on socks or forgotten cups on the bed. In other words, everything is IDEAL. But those who had sexual experience know that all this is a nonsense, and actually it doesn't work that way.
Good news is that the majority of things we worry about during sex are quite normal "side effects." We must understand that if we pay attention to these small issues that usually worry us more than our partners, we will destroy the magic of the moment for which we love sex so much. That's why clever people learn either not to notice such moments or to laugh at them. Because if we learn this, we will become free and will trust our partner more who learned this with us.
So, which weird things can make you feel shy, and should you actually pay attention to them?
1. Weird sounds
Yes, weird sounds can come out from anywhere: from your mouth or from other places of your body. All in all, sex is the physical process. That's why there is nothing weird if you completely give yourself to the process and allow yourself some breadths. But many people are ashamed if something like this happens to them, and destroy the romance that they would like to feel so much. You shouldn't forget that not only you but also your partner can emit such sounds. And if this happens even with him, why should YOU be ashamed of this?
2. The amount of time you need to reach an orgasm
If you imitate orgasms one by one because you can't reach normally even once, then you should better stop doing this. Because your complexes and useless thoughts make you need much more time from reaching a climax than when you don't think about anything at all.
3. Discussing what you would like to try in bed
It is 2016 outside, and the human rules his or her life and everything that happens around. However, still many are afraid of asking for something that we want to try in bed. And, frankly speaking, it is hard to understand - why?! The quality of sex depends on this! And there is nothing shameful in the wish to get pleasure during the sexual intercourse.
4. Problems with excitement
Some men may have problems with erection. And this is not something they should be ashamed of and become dispirited. Very often our body and mind may be not in agreement with each other. And in some cases we «want» with our head while our body can refuse at the same moment. In this case, the prelude can help you. All in all, you may refer to a doctor if this happens too often. You in no way should be ashamed of this or become upset.
5. Impossibility to reach an orgasm
Very often, men or women (especially women) face problems in reaching an orgasm. And before trying to imitate it, try to start thinking about the goal of sex and possibility to become closer to your partner or simply spending time with pleasure without concentrating on how important this process is for the Universe. Such method yields its fruits: it will be much easier for you to relax during the sexual intercourse. And don't forget that there is nothing bad if you don't get on the peak of the sexual pleasure, because this is actually an ascension, not an immediate teleportation.
When your legs are raised up and spread wide for the maximum penetration, it is quite normal that you may have wind. But if you think too much about this problem, you can't completely concentrate on the process. But there is nothing more important than it, is it? It is important to keep in mind that it is easier to laugh at everything that happens with us and turn it into a joke rather than worrying and being embarrassed because of this.
7. When you need a small break
Sex is always a training. A wonderful, bringing pleasure, but still a training. And this means that at some moment you may get tired and even exhale. You will need recover breath, relax and maybe even refresh yourself. There is nothing you should be ashamed of in this. Actually, if you got tired even more than your partner did, then you tried harder, and this is worthy of respect.
8. Know how to say "no"
There are thousands of things that may happen during sex, and you may simply not like some of them. But you can refuse from them at any minute! This will not turn you into a hypocrite, and you shouldn't worry that your partner will consider you to be a boring person. Maybe you are simply not ready for this, and probably may not ever be ready. If your partner can't accept this fact, maybe your should think if he is worth staying by your side.
9. Body hair
If there is hair on my body, and this is not eyelashes, eyebrows or it is not on my head - it must be immediately destroyed with no compromises! – This is the opinion the majority of women stick to trying to be something like an ideal on the poster when they will have to bare themselves before making love. Actually, more often this issue doesn't play any role for your sexual partner.
10. How you have an orgasm
Many women and men confess that when they reach an orgasm, their neighbours can hear this, and even people in the passing by cars can. Talking about the sounds, rather than about their level, many are ashamed of their emotions. But don't forget that for many people, especially for men, sounds of orgasm of their sexual partner are already the perfect music, and the more emotional it is - the better.
11. Fantasies about someone
If during sex you think about someone else but your partner, probably you should consider the possibility of changing this person. However, there is nothing bad in closing your eyes and imagining a sex-symbol or even someone you know who excites you in some degree. This doesn't mean that you don't love your partner. This means only that you are a completely normal person who would like to have sex with someone who seems sexual for you.
12. Peculiarities of your body
Each of us has something he or she would like to change in own body and appearance: to lose weight or, vice versa, to gain it, to change the form of the nose or chin, make legs longer and hips - smaller. But there is one detail: a person you have sex with has the same concerns about appearance as you do. And at the same time you may even not know what he worries about so strongly. That's why you need to perceive your body as given and stop being ashamed of it.