Ideally there should be no such thing as a “divorcee”. However, life is not perfect. People get married and they get divorced. So, what questions should you ask yourself or the partner before marrying someone, who has been divorced?
1. Is marrying a divorcee a sin?
This is the questions many Christians ask themselves. Well, it all depends on the reason why that person broke up with their husband or wife. The Bible gives us some legitimate reasons for a divorce. One of them is cheating. If one spouse cheats, the other one becomes free from the marital bonds.
The second reason is living with the unbeliever. If the other person rejects God and is not willing to live with the Christian, the brother or sister is free (1 Cor. 7:15). In some cases people do that openly. They either make you deny your faith or just walk away. Some people show the lack of desire to live together by beating up their spouses or doing some other violent things. They may say they want to live together, but deeds speak louder than words!
So, before you make a decision to marry a divorcee, find out what was the cause of divorce. At times you learn surprising things about people. And do more than just asking. Try to learn details from friends, family members or even from the ex. It may turn out that the person you are dating is a drunkard or a batterer. How would you like that?
If the man tells: it was all her fault! Think twice before you marry him. It is never the fault of one person only. It takes two to get married and it takes two to divorce!
2. How long has it been since divorce?
That’s an important one! Divorce is traumatic. You cannot expect a person to get over it fast. Some people just do not take the time to live it down and get healed up. And a wounded person hurts others. So, if it has just been few months or a year after the divorce, why remarry so fast?
In the future, your spouse may have various problems or they may even decide to go back to their ex! Such situations happen a lot.
3. Do they take care of the kids from the former marriage?
If the man you are planning to marry has no interest in supporting the kids from the previous marriage, there are high chances he would not care for your kids too. Check up how often he sees his kids and how much he pays to support them. If the man is not willing to discuss this topic, think twice before making that decision. Yes, his wife may not be the best person on earth, but kids carry no blame!
These are the 3 key questions to ask the person, if you are planning on marrying a divorcee!