The blogger is Thomas Mwangi - a Media Studies student - who analyzes some of the things largely contribute to the large number of single mothers in African society today
The choice of an African woman to remain single is something to worry about. It should not be ignored that the number of single mothers is escalating in the country leading to a high number of fatherless children.
The reasons that are making an African woman remain single, either with a child or not, and to withstand gossips from the friends, and pressure from the parents must be critically analyzed and dissected to get to the root of the menace.
Procreation is endangered as women are becoming older and older, ignoring the responsibility of motherhood.
Some women have been heard say that they weigh on what to rely much on between a husband, a child or her well-paying career. Through this elimination method, they are likely to be left with career, and or a child.
Sexual or emotional abuse is among the leading factors that have kept dozens of women outside the wedlock. The girl child has been an endangered species more so in the African setup, where the teachers, neighbors’ and the worst of all, the father is a threat during her development. All the named groups molest her sexually, damaging her psychology and therefore develop hatred for the male being.
Domestic violence has seen women leave their matrimonial homes and opt for a single life. Daily fights have left a huge number of women physically and mentally ill. Some women have been a victim of thorough beating, in the morning, afternoon and over the night. They have been fed upon like the meal, made a boxing bag and left like old rags.
Some women have been born that way- without a need for man. Take for instance a daughter of a single mother. She has been brought up by her mother, taken care of by a nanny who is a girl, went to kindergarten where she finds madam Jane, joins primary school where she is taught the rights of a girl child by of course a female teacher, went to high school in girls boarding school, and later to a university to pursue gender equity and so on.
She has never experienced the love of a father, the need for a man and so forth. If you try to contain this lady in a marriage boundaries, with rules that she. never acquired from the beginning, you’re likely to be the loser.
However, the increased cases of single mothers or women have been a threat to other people’s marriages. From my own observation, this has become a nursery bed for cheating in marriages where the single women need children but don’t want to be married. They are likely to take your husband who matches their age of 30-40, get a child and close the chapter of marriage.
Spread of sexual related diseases, breaking of marriages are among the effects of this catastrophic decisions to remain single.
Although not all women advocate for singleness, they feel that everybody should be left do what they feel comfortable doing. Charlotte say that one of the best decisions she ever made was to get married at 21. She feels that everyone had high hopes that she would pursue a good course after performing well in her grade school and college. She says that h3r feminist friends who are in their 30s still give her a flak despite the fact that they are quite miserable being alone.
It should be remembered that in the African Traditional setup, any lady who decided to be single was seen as an outcast. She was segregated and her life and death period were seen as a shame to the family. In the Luhya community from the western sides of Kenya, such women were buried behind the house as sign of avoiding bad omen for the family.