"This Is Rare": About to Wed Lady Wants Her Man to Take Her Last Name, Matter Getting Out of Hand

• A lady wanted her husband-to-be to take her last name when they get married, but he is hesitant
• An advice columnist suggested they talk about their options and feelings, and consider the practical implications of having different names
• A psychotherapist said that marriage is a process of creating a shared identity, but also keeping individuality

Many couples face the dilemma of choosing their last name when they get married.

Some women want to keep their own name, some want to take their husband’s name, and some want to create a new name together.

But what if a woman wants her husband to take her name?

That was the case for one woman who wrote to an advice columnist for The Guardian.

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She said she and her fiance were both against gender stereotypes, but he seemed reluctant to change his name to hers.

She wondered if she was asking too much of him, or if she should fight for this “insignificant act of rebellion”.

Not too much to ask but...

The columnist, Annalisa Barbieri, replied that the woman was not making too much of this, but she needed to have an honest conversation with her fiance about their options and feelings.

She suggested that they could keep their own names, make up a new name, or use a double-barrelled name.

She also warned that having different names from their children could cause some practical problems when travelling.

Barbieri also consulted a psychotherapist, Susanna Abse, who said that marriage was a process of developing a shared culture and identity, but also maintaining individuality.

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She asked the woman to reflect on what marriage meant to her and what she feared losing.

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Meanwhile, YEN.com.gh has reported in a separate story that Nana Yaa Nyarko, a Ghanaian living in the UK, has described how her husband betrayed her after she fully paid for his relocation to the European country.

She regretfully revealed in an interview that her now-divorced husband had cheated and fathered two children by other women.

Later, according to Nana Yaa, she found out that her husband had brought the children and his baby mother to the UK without her knowledge.

Source: Legit.ng