- When Lucy Chemutai hit the streets of Eldoret in the morning, hers was a hustle for something different from a job and money; a husband
- No, her husband is not lost; Chepkam was simply shooting her shot to hopefully find someone's son who will sweep her off the feet into holy matrimony
- Transformational life coach Peris Wambugu, however, explains that there is no shortage of good men who are committed to being husbands and fathers
On the morning of April 8, Lucy Chemutai aka Chepkam woke up and headed to the streets of Eldoret town.
She was not there to hustle for a job or money like the thousands who graced the town the same day.
Hers was different; to lift a placard which would announce to all and sundry that she was looking for her husband.
No, her husband is not lost; Chepkam has never had one before so this was her shot to hopefully find someone's son who will sweep her off her feet into holy matrimony.
"Scarcity of husbands. Looking for a serious husband. No age limit," her placard read.
She also made it clear that looks and financial abilities were not her concern as long as the potential husband is alive and breathing.
That brought about the discussion on whether husbands really are scarce these days or women just have no idea where to find them.
One of the things that came out of that situation is that women empowerment has seemingly left the boychild trailing in both leadership, education, career, and financial abilities.
In the long run, the men have taken to drinking and partying as an escape from the realities on the ground.
A cross-section of those who commented opined that feminism and gender parity may have installed them on a yardstick so high that their prime years pass without men reaching out.
According to them, women want to have their cake and eat it by demanding equality to the level of feeling superior in relationships while at the same time expecting to be treated like the fairer gender.
Scientist and transformational life coach Peris Wambugu is adamant there is no shortage of good men who are committed to being husbands and fathers.
She reiterates that women are limited by beliefs fuelled by society, which stops them from seeing the bigger picture.
"Beliefs like when you have a child especially a boy it's difficult to get married, or if you are the age thirty and above you have reached sell-by date, therefore, no hopes for you," explained Peris.
She also adds that the pressure to get married to the level of desperation is an inside job fuelled by perceived shame from the outside environment.
"This particular woman has allowed the shame of being unmarried to eat into her by telling her that she is not enough without a husband, which leads her into desperation mode.
According to Peris, such things can be avoided if the individual heals her emotional self and betters herself without the pressure.
She advises women to work on their stability and clear state of mind because when they do it out of desperation the outcome and regrets are worse than the single state.