- Michelle Obama admitted her marriage was rocky right after the girls were born
- She attended therapy sessions and realized it was not her husband's responsibility to make her happy
- The author added at the end of the day, Obama was her friend and she was reminded why she fell in love with him
- The two are now happy and stronger 28 years after walking down the aisle
Former US first lady Michelle Obama has admitted not all marriages are perfect and hers too survived the test of time.
The mother of two disclosed she and retired president Barrack Obama went through a rough patch right after their girls were born.
Speaking to Oprah, the author said her marriage was deep in the dumps she had to seek counseling learned to try and save it.
She and Obama attended couple’s therapy and after numerous sessions, they learnt how to navigate their relationship.
One lesson Michelle learned was her happiness was her responsibility and she was also not in charge of her husband’s joy.
She also discovered she and the former president were different individuals who needed to celebrate and recognize their uniqueness before focussing on each other.
The bubbly lady admitted marriage is hard and raising a family is also harder than it seems.
The 56-year-old beauty said counselling is key in marriage as couples often need an objective person to hear them out.
“It taught me that I was responsible for my own happiness. I did not marry Barack for him to make me happy. No one can make me happy. If I am going to show up equal in this partnership, I have to be able to make myself happy and so I had to stop focusing on what he was not doing and start thinking about how to carve out the life that I wanted for myself, with or without Barack” she said.
Michelle and Obama have been married for 28 years and are the ultimate SI unit for couple goals.
The former first lady pointed out her marriage was built on friendship and that always reminded her to stick by the man who was her friend before being her partner.
“We went through a tough time, we did some hard things together. But now we are out on the other end and I can look at him and I still recognise my husband. He is still the man I fell in love with,” Michelle added.
As earlier reported, the retired FLOTUS said she and her husband also struggled to comfortably transition to empty nesters.
After their daughters went off to college, the duo cried and tried their best to embrace their new reality.
She also joked about how Obama is a huge cry baby who gets carried away whenever his daughters achieve any milestones like graduating.
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