Where is My Dad? Woman Whose Mother Died While Delivering Her Asks
- Doreen Wangui has never met her father ever since she was born, and no one in her family knows anything about him
- Wangui said her mother died right after giving birth to her, and she took information about her dad with her to the grave
- The mother of one said she needed to find her biological father so that she could know who he is and also get answers to questions she has harboured for so long
Human beings are intrinsically wired to desire a sense of belonging and identity. To borrow Maya Angelou's words, you cannot really figure out where you are going unless you know where you are coming from.
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It is probably for this reason that a Kenyan woman courageously came out to make an emotional plea to find her father, whom she has never seen in her entire life.
In an exclusive interview, Doreen Wangui, narrated how a void in her heart only got deeper as she grew older because she did not get to relish motherly or fatherly love and support.
Wangui said her mother, Jacinta Wambui Kagunya passed away after giving birth to her, and the worst part is she took information about the man who fathered her to the grave.
"When she was two months pregnant with me, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Doctors told her that the pregnancy was a threat to her. When she went to give birth to me in the hospital, she did not make it," Wangui said.
Fortunately, her maternal grandmother became her guardian angel, and she took care of her.
She was raised in Eldoret together with nine other cousins, and to say life was difficult would be an understatement.
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Her grandma worked tooth and nail to take her through school and provide for her needs, but it was tough as the older woman had many other children to take care of.
However, Wangui's mother did not divulge any information about Wangui's biological father to her granny, which breaks her heart to pieces.
"My grandmother took me and took care of me. I really do not know why she (her late mother) did not mention my dad. I do not know the reason," she said while breaking down in tears.
"It feels so sad because my grandmother faced so much raising all of us. I always asked myself why? Why couldn't he come to check on me and yet he knew the condition of my mother and how she left me," Wangui said.
Finding her identity
The mother of one maintained she only wants to meet her father to clearly understand who she is and get answers to questions she has harboured for so long and know her real identity.
The lady said she had already forgiven her father and was open to meeting him and having a relationship with him.
"There is this rejection I have gone through growing up. No one accepted me. I remember one time a woman came home, and she looked at me saying, 'Is this Doreen? I thought she died'," she painfully recalled.
According to her, she was not interested in any form of monetary support from her dad, noting that her goal is to find her identity.
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Mohammed Awal Mohammed Awal holds a Bachelor of Arts in Communication Studies (Journalism) at the Ghana Institute of Journalism. He has worked in print and online media with Ghanaian-based The Chronicle newspaper, Starr FM and US-based online portable, Face2faceAfrica.com. He also had brief stints with Africafeeds.
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