I Slept on Market Floors With No Money — A Kind Stranger Guided Me to Training and My First House
The market was already screaming when I woke up, my cheek pressed hard against cold cement. Traders shouted prices over each other. Metal scales clanged sharply. A radio blasted old highlife through cracked speakers. Someone kicked my foot by mistake as they rushed past.
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"Ei, sorry," the man muttered, already disappearing into the crowd.
My clothes smelt of onions, sweat, and wet cardboard from the night rain. My back ached deeply, like it had been folded wrong and left that way for hours. I clutched my bag tightly to my chest as if it might vanish if I loosened my grip. Inside it were my last dress, my soap, and my mother's old scarf.
A woman crouched nearby hissed, "Move before the assemblyman comes."
Fear shot through me, sharp and electric, settling fast in my stomach. Sunlight crept through torn tarpaulin overhead and landed directly on my eyes. Too bright. Too sudden. Too real. I sat up quickly, heart racing uncontrollably.
For one wild second, I forgot where I was and why my body hurt. Then the noise rushed back into me all at once. Makola Market. Another morning. Still homeless.
I whispered under my breath, "Just breathe, Amina."
My voice shook as if it might break. I was still alive. That had to mean something, even if I did not yet know what.
My name is Amina. Home stopped meaning one place, the day my mother died, and nothing ever settled again after that.
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Before her death, life was simple in ways I only understood later. She woke me early, braided my hair, and reminded me to eat before leaving the house. After she was gone, silence filled everything she once touched.
I moved between relatives like borrowed furniture that nobody wanted for long. Each house had its own rules, moods, and unspoken limits. I learned them quickly because mistakes were never forgiven twice.
Some nights, I slept on a thin mattress laid out for visitors. Other nights, I slept on a bare cement floor near the door. The space I was given depended on who felt irritated with me that week.
"Don't be a burden," one aunt liked to say, not angrily, just firmly.
Another would sigh loudly when she saw me sitting too long. I learned how to stand, how to leave rooms quietly, and how not to ask. Food was never guaranteed. Affection disappeared quickly when I needed it most. I trained myself to need less, speak less, and feel less.
At seventeen, Lynn appeared like a doorway I had been waiting for. She laughed loudly and talked fast, as if the world owed her something. She wore confidence like it was clothing.
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"There's work everywhere in the city," she told me casually one afternoon.
"And my cousin has space. You won't suffer there."
Her certainty wrapped around my fear and softened it. I believed her because I needed to believe someone. Hope has a way of making risks feel reasonable. Staying felt heavier than leaving.
Accra swallowed us the moment we arrived. Noise pressed in from every side. Heat clung to my skin like a second layer. The first week felt exciting and possible. We walked long distances and shared jokes. I imagined myself working, saving, and becoming independent.
By the second week, things shifted quietly. Lynn began coming home late without explanation. Her phone rang unanswered more often than not.
One evening, I returned to the room alone. The door was locked. My bag sat outside like something rejected. I knocked gently at first, then harder. My knuckles burned, but no one answered. The corridor echoed my fear.
A neighbour glanced at me briefly and shrugged.
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"She moved," he said. "Didn't she tell you?"
His indifference stung more than the words. I called Lynn again and again until my phone died. Silence answered every attempt. Reality settled in slowly and painfully.
Shame sealed my mouth completely. Going back home felt like proof of failure. I could not face the looks or the questions. So I stayed near markets and transport hubs. Places where people passed through quickly. Places where nobody asked why you were there.
At night, I folded my clothes into a makeshift pillow. I slept lightly, listening for footsteps. Sleep never fully came.
During the day, I washed in public bathrooms. Cold water, cracked mirrors, and hurried glances. I scrubbed quickly and avoided meeting my own eyes.
Later, I blended into crowds and corners. I learned how to survive quietly. I kept telling myself it was temporary. I repeated it like a prayer. I needed to believe it would not always be this way.
I refused shelter deliberately, even when my body begged for rest. The rules changed every night, and the faces behind them never stayed the same. One evening, a guard looked at me through tired eyes.
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"You must leave by six," he said flatly.
I stared at him, wondering where a person was meant to go at six. By morning, the place emptied itself. Beds disappeared. Doors locked. Safety lasted only a few hours at a time.
The street felt dangerous, but it was honest. I could see threats coming there, and I trusted my instincts more than promises.
I worked small jobs during the day wherever I could find them. Cleaning stalls. Washing bowls until my fingers wrinkled and stung. Carrying crates until my arms shook and my shoulders burned.
"How much?" I always asked before starting.
"Take this and go," they replied, counting notes without looking up.
Cash only. No names exchanged. No questions asked. I liked it that way, even when it paid almost nothing. Being known felt risky.
Some days, the work ran out early. I sat on pavements pretending to rest while hunger tightened inside me. Outreach workers found me sometimes. They wore bright vests and spoke gently, as if softness alone could fix things.
"Are you safe?" one woman asked, crouching slightly.
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"I'm fine," I replied immediately, my answer already prepared.
She studied my face for a moment.
"If you need food or a place—"
"I said I'm fine," I cut in, sharper than intended.
Trust felt expensive. I could not afford to spend it on strangers.
At night, sleep came in broken fragments. I never allowed myself to drift too deeply. A trotro horn would blare suddenly. Footsteps would pass too close. Drunk laughter would slice through the dark.
My body stayed tense even while resting. My bag remained tucked under my arm. It was my last proof that I existed and belonged to myself.
One night, rain began without warning. Heavy drops slapped the ground angrily, soaking everything in seconds. The smell of wet dust rose sharply. Cold crept into my clothes and bones.
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I curled tighter beneath a stall table, pressing my knees to my chest. My teeth chattered despite my effort to stay quiet.
"Ei, small girl," a woman nearby murmured softly.
"You'll catch a cold sleeping like this."
"I'm okay," I snapped, fear making my voice hard.
She shook her head slowly but said nothing more.
Days blurred together in exhausting repetition. My body grew thinner. My patience is shorter. Sometimes hunger made my vision swim dangerously. I learned when to sit before my legs failed me.
It was during those moments that I noticed her properly. The same woman. The same spot. Every week. She carried only bottled water. No clipboard. No pamphlets. No urgency.
"Take," she said once, placing the bottle beside me gently.
I watched her hands carefully, alert for any trick.
"No questions?" I asked suspiciously.
She shook her head calmly. "You'll talk when you're ready," she replied quietly.
Then she stood and walked away without waiting. Her silence unsettled me more than pressure would have. I kept expecting a condition to appear. But it never did.
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She came back the next week. And the week after that. Sometimes she greeted me with a nod or a soft "Good afternoon." Sometimes she just sat nearby, sharing the same air.
I never told her my name. She never asked. Something inside me stayed tight, watchful. But another part of me waited for her footsteps.
Her name was Ruth. I did not yet understand it, but the balance was shifting. For the first time in a long while, the world felt slightly less hostile. That frightened me almost as much as it comforted me.
"You don't have to explain anything," she said once, as if she sensed my tension.
Her voice did not rush or soften too much. It stayed steady, as she trusted me to decide. I tested her silence again and again. I waited for curiosity to slip out of her. It never did.
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Weeks passed that way, measured by her appearances. I learned the sound of her footsteps. I hated how much I noticed.
One afternoon, the sky darkened without warning. The rain tore open suddenly, violently and loudly. Thunder cracked like something breaking apart above us.
Water rushed through the market in dirty streams. Traders shouted and scrambled to cover goods. The smell of soaked fabric and wet dust filled the air.
My clothes clung heavily to my skin. Cold settled fast, sharp and relentless. My body started shaking before I could stop it. Ruth stood beside me without urgency. She did not grab my arm or raise her voice.
"There's a place nearby," she said gently, leaning close so I could hear.
"Just to dry yourself. Nothing more."
No promise followed her words. No pressure sat behind them. Only an option. I followed because my body was trembling uncontrollably. Because hunger and cold had finally won that day.
The small office was quiet. It smelt of soap, warm tea, and clean cloth. Light hummed softly overhead, steady and calm.
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"Sit," she said, pointing to a chair.
I sat without arguing, my muscles aching with relief.
I dried my dress slowly, my hands still shaking. I drank the tea carefully, afraid it might disappear. The warmth spread through me in waves. My breathing steadied. My thoughts slowed.
"Do I have to sign something?" I asked, suspicion rising again.
"No," Ruth replied simply.
Her answer did not come with explanations. I stayed only long enough to feel human again. Then I left without giving my name. Fear still ruled my decisions.
But something had shifted quietly inside me. I had followed someone and survived it. All week, I thought about that moment. About the chair. The tea. The absence of pressure.
The next week, my feet brought me back on their own. I stood outside for a long time before stepping in. No one pushed me. Ruth looked up and smiled when she saw me. Not wide. Not surprised.
"I was hoping," she said softly, as if she had trusted time to do its work.
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Choice had returned to me. For the first time in years, I was not reacting. I was deciding. And that changed everything.
I agreed to short-term housing after careful thought, not all at once, not easily. It took days of listening, watching, and weighing every word that was offered to me.
The room was small and plain, but it was mine. One bed. One chair. One lock I controlled myself. That detail mattered more than I expected.
The first night, I slept deeply, heavier than I had in months. No sudden jolts pulled me awake. No need to clutch my bag under my arm.
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When I woke up, light filtered softly through the window. For a moment, I lay still, afraid the room might vanish. Then I cried, quietly and fully. The mattress still held my body. The ceiling did not move. I was still there.
I started skills training soon after, easing into a routine. Mornings were spent at a small tailoring shop nearby. The air smelled of fabric dust and oil from the machines.
"Be patient with yourself," my trainer reminded me often.
I nodded, my hands clumsy but determined to learn. Each stitch felt like proof that I could still build something. I worked mornings and studied in between. The days felt long but purposeful. Exhaustion came with direction now.
Ruth helped me replace my lost ID, step by step. Each office visit drained me more than physical labour ever had. Lines, forms, questions, waiting.
Opening a bank account frightened me more than hunger. My fingers shook as I signed my name. I kept expecting something to go wrong.
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"You're allowed to take space," Ruth said gently.
Her reminder stayed with me long after she left. Six months passed slowly but steadily. Not in miracles, but in small accumulations. One lesson learned. One payment saved.
When it was time, I signed my first lease myself. Seeing my name written in ink felt unreal. It stayed on the page even when I blinked.
I paid the deposit with my own money. My hands shook as I counted the cedis carefully. No one corrected me. No one rushed me.
That night, I sat on the bare floor of my new room. The walls echoed my breathing. The silence felt different now. I wasn't rich. I wasn't fixed. But I was housed. And I was choosing.
The days that followed felt quieter. I learned how to rest without fear. How to plan beyond the next morning.
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Now, I volunteer once a week. I return to familiar streets, but with steadier feet. I sit quietly with women who are not ready to speak yet. I do not rush them. I do not ask questions. I place water beside them. And I wait.
I once believed survival meant isolation, that needing nothing and no one was the strongest position a person could take. I thought independence meant refusing help before it could disappoint or control me. I was wrong.
What saved me was not charity or rescue or dramatic generosity. It was dignity offered without demand, and support given without conditions attached.
Ruth did not pull me forward or drag me into safety. She stood still, held her position, and made space for me to decide. That difference mattered more than I can properly explain.
Trauma shrinks choice until it becomes almost invisible. When every decision has consequences that hurt, the safest option becomes no choice at all. I lived that way for a long time, reacting instead of deciding. I learned that trust grows best when pressure disappears and when kindness does not feel like a transaction.
Healing did not arrive suddenly. It returned slowly, in fragments, and with long pauses in between. Each small decision rebuilt something I had lost.
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I also learned how deeply shame keeps people trapped. Not because others enforce it loudly, but because it settles inside quietly. Shame told me to stay invisible. It told me silence was safer than asking.
I survived the streets by becoming small and unseen. I healed by being noticed without being claimed. By being offered presence without expectation.
Now I understand that real support does not rush people toward readiness. It waits until readiness arrives on its own. It respects the pace that fear and healing demand.
Support should never cage gratitude or create obligation. It should widen options, not narrow them. It should return power, not replace it.
If someone had forced me into safety, I would have run. Not because I wanted danger, but because control feels like a threat when trust is broken. Safety begins where control ends.
I carry that understanding with me now. It shapes how I show up for others. It reminds me to listen longer than I speak.
When I sit with women who are not ready, I do not see resistance. I see protection. I see someone doing the best they can with the choices they believe they have.
So, I ask: When has fear or shame stopped you from asking for help, even when you needed it? And, how do you recognise when you are choosing for yourself versus reacting out of fear or survival?
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