- Psychologist Benjamin Zulu advises men to look beyond mere salvation when trying to gauge a woman whose hand they intend to seek in marriage
- He raised alarm over extreme spirituality as it could be a disguise for a flawed character
- According to him, the biggest red flag is dressing; that a lady who is always overdressed no matter the weather or occasion could be in a sect
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For ages, African men have been raised to believe that the most preferred location to find a woman worth marrying is the church or at least one who dresses, sounds and behaves saved.
According to psychologist Benjamin Zulu, salvation should only be one of the score points alongside other traits because many of the saved folks tend to have handicaps with relationships and marriage.
"Having faith in God means nothing without a strong character because such a person cannot resist temptation or endure hardship to keep their promise," he explained.
Zulu raised alarm over extreme spirituality as it could be a disguise for a flawed character, as the immaturity and manipulation in such individuals make them avoid handling issues by reverting to prayer.
As much as going to church is a welcome move, Zulu advice men to stay clear of women who spend too much time in church activities and neglecting other areas of their lives, they're lazy or foolish.
"If they try to win you for marriage by quoting God or dreams they're dangerous manipulators. If you meet for a date and they can't talk in a conversational way but they're preaching or giving endless testimonies or praying long prayers that's an idiot," said Zulu.
Perhaps the biggest red flag in Zulu's book is dressing. He maintains that if the lady a man is pursuing is always overdressed no matter the weather or occasion, she could be in a sect masquerading as a straightforward church.
"We have sects today who will not undress even at night lest God sees their nakedness. You marry her and my brother you'll be in a perpetual dry spell," he warns.
So, where does one draw the line between acceptable and questionable spirituality? One may ask.
He advised men to look for women who are both godly and balanced, which means they revere God but also respect people around them regardless of their level of faith.
This applies to other aspects of their lives, like financial organisation and the ability to live within their means.
"If they're in debt everywhere, flee," he concluded.
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