Kenyan Lady Shares Heartbreaking Experience Of Dating A Ghanaian Man: "I Haven't Dated Again Since"
- A video of a Kenyan lady sharing her experience of dating a Ghanaian man has left many heartbroken on social media
- The lady said that she was betrayed by this man, who married another woman while they were still in a relationship
- Speaking exclusively to YEN.com.gh, a relationship coach shared some reasons why the relationship between the duo did not last
A Kenyan lady, Valerie Odera, has shared her heartbreaking experience dating a Ghanaian man, which she said left her broken and unable to date again.
Narrating her ordeal in a TikTok video, Valerie stated that she fell in love with a 'handsome, dark-skinned man', believing they had a future together, only to be disappointed in the end.
Source: TikTok
"One Ghanaian man showed me shege and this has left me single to date. I have major trust issues with people because of this incident," she said in her TikTok video.
'Prince Charming' visits Valerie in Kenya
According to her, the man was based in Ghana while she lived in Kenya, and sometimes, he visited her in her country.
She noted that they made pleasant memories together, going shopping, etc. At one point, he asked what kind of ring she wanted if they got engaged.
Regardless of the fond memories, Valerie said communication between her and her lover became strained each time he moved back to Ghana, which was a red flag to her.
The secret wedding of Valerie's lover
Things began to unravel one time when her Ghanaian lover visited her in Kenya. During that visit, Valerie said he made a lovely cream suit, which she praised as beautiful - little did she know that it was for his wedding reception.
"One time, I was seated in my house, and this Ghanaian lady, our mutual friend, posted some pictures on his WhatsApp status. So I was going through WhatsApp as usual, and lo and behold, I saw 'Save the date' pictures of this guy with another lady on the lady's status. The thing that killed me the most was how beautiful this girl was. I sat on the floor and I started shaking," she said.
She stated that she did not confront the man; instead, she wished him congratulations, which was how things ended between them.
Watch the video below:
"Love alone is not enough" - Relationship coach
In an exclusive interview with YEN.com.gh, Mr Seyram Avortri, a relationship coach and CEO of Total Wellness and Recovery Consult, shared possible reasons why the cross-cultural relationship did not last. He stated that love alone is not enough in a relationship like this.
"If the man comes back to marry a Ghanaian, then it's probably because some things didn't go well with the man. Even in Ghana, tribal intertribal relationships have a lot of queries or a lot of questions. And if a man wants to marry an Ashanti, it becomes a problem. It is not because the people or the personality is not good, but it's because of the cultural beliefs and cultural differences: the kind of foods we eat, how we prepare them, the language we use, the way we handle social activities, the way we handle our families and all the in-laws and all they all have a role to play."
"So if you are able, if you really want to marry somebody from a different culture, then you must be ready to learn everything about that culture and you must be ready to accept everything about that culture. If you don't, then you have a big problem."
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Netizens sympathise with Valerie
Many netizens who saw the video felt sorry for the Kenyan lady and sympathised with her in the comment section.
@AGUNECHEMBA wrote:
"Sorry my sister."
@Le Ghanéen wrote:
"One brother don spoil market ooo."
@She/women wrote:
"Yo sis sorry u had to go experience this."
@Kay_Okyere wrote:
"Val!! hope it's not who I think it is ... Really sorry darling. Best of wishes love, you have a beautiful heart and deserve better."
@Jahlove wrote:
"Sorry we ain't like that tho."
Indomie seller sponsors lover abroad, is betrayed
YEN.com.gh also reported that a Ghanaian lady who sells noodles for a living was betrayed by her partner.
She explained she sold Indomie to sponsor his trip abroad, only for him to get there and forget she existed.
Proofread by Bruce Douglas, senior copy editor at YEN.com.gh
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